Dating an unbeliever verses
A "yoke" was a farm implement that bound two animals together so that they could work together as a team.
Modern translations remove the "yoke" and translate the intent of the verse, warning believers, "Do not be bound together with unbelievers." Does this apply to marriage?
I have received a few emails from Christians (and even one from a non-Christian) asking if it is okay for a Christian to date or marry an unbeliever.
Usually, by the time the question is asked, the relationship has gone far enough that a negative answer is going to be difficult to accept, even if it is the right answer.
The short answer is "no." However, it is good to examine the scripture behind the answer to understand it more completely, including why such a marriage is a bad idea.
The usual answer given the believer is from 2 Corinthians: Do not be bound together [unequally yoked] with unbelievers; for what partnership have righteousness and lawlessness, or what fellowship has light with darkness?
( In these verses, the Apostle Paul compares believers with unbelievers in terms of light with darkness (verse 14), Christ with Belial (a references to Satan, verse 15), a believer with an unbeliever (verse 15), and a temple of God with a temple of idols (verse 16). Even though you may think you have a lot in common, the most important things you don't hold in common.
The Bible, especially the New Testament, warns Christians to avoid idolatry.
Since an unbeliever doesn't believe in God, to him everything is an idol, including his relationship with you.Included in the list of idols are sexual immorality, impurity, passion, evil desire, and greed. Likewise, the joining of a Christian and a non-Christian joins Christ to an unbeliever.The New Testament goes as far as to warn us not even to eat with idolaters (1 Corinthians ). Bad company corrupts good morals" ( The Bible is actually much more direct about marrying unbelievers than has been indicated to this point.The Old Testament specifically forbids God's people from marrying "foreign wives": "Now therefore, make confession to the LORD God of your fathers and do His will; and separate yourselves from the peoples of the land and from the foreign wives." ( So, the New Testament makes it clear that believers are only to marry fellow believers.Although dating of Christians and non-Christians is not specifically handled in the Bible, it is clear that such an action is asking for trouble.
An unbeliever who practices Christian-like morality is going to be attractive to a Christian.