Problem with dating a married man
Question I’m in my early twenties and I’m dating a married guy who has been separated from his wife for almost a year.He is trying to get divorced, but she’s delaying it.We live in different cities, so we mostly talk by text and phone.I know it looks bad from the outside, but we have never been physical with each other and I know he’s the kind of guy I would love to be married to.I’ve dated other guys before and this guy has the qualities I most admire.I’ve told my parents about it and they are all encouraging me to break it off just because he’s still married.
I’ll share some thoughts on why I support their position.First of all, if marriage means something to you, then it needs to mean something to this guy, even if the timing seems inconvenient.He made a commitment to his wife and children that he needs to resolve before he moves on and starts making other commitments. He can tell himself (and you) that it’s just a technicality that he’s still married, but that kind of rationalization should be a red flag as you evaluate his integrity.about the very security and commitment you will depend on for the rest of your life.After almost twenty years of counseling with individuals and couples, I have heard just about every rationalization for stepping out of marriage to have an affair.
In the end, they’re all just excuses to justify selfishness.