You had too much going on during your divorce to possibly consider dating.
This same script, I’m reminded, played out in the life of one of my favorite clients who fell in love with a separated man.
As this courtship picks up speed, you feel fortunate to have found such a considerate, loving, thoughtful man–but just as you begin trusting that his pronouncements of love are When people ask me why I married my husband, I would like them to read this.
He was everything that I had hoped for in terms of a partner, not counting the sex, but I was a sexual mess myself.
Why does one stay in something that is so clearly irreparable?Was this relationship a template that I instinctively understood?What I can say now is that if this is a dynamic in your relationship, then you need to know that the only thing you can change is you.There’s nothing worse than having someone exit a relationship this way.If this is the kind of person to whom you have tied your happiness, then I suggest that you do a personal inventory and ask yourself what you really want.
You’re damned if you open your mouth because you get abandoned by him, and damned if you don’t, because you’re betraying yourself.